Keep calm…

I’m often told that I seem to be very calm even in dire situations. Like when the boss sends an email saying things are going wrong, or when you think you’re going to miss an important deadline or worse still when you have to rush someone to the hospital. People just think I seem to take all these situations very calmly. They find it odd, because I’m not exactly the quietest person in the world. Either that’s a good thing because it seems like I have nerves of steel or it’s a really bad thing because it seems like I don’t care.

Well, neither are true. I panic. I panic so much sometimes I have nightmares and panic attacks. But somehow I have learned how to internalise my worst fears. It helps to talk about it sometimes with close friends but don’t usually put my worst fears iut there. Probably because I think they may then come true. So I keep it in and wait for it to pass.

I also think no good comes from spreading panic. At work, I’m calm because I think it will help my team stay calm, which will lead to them thinking more clearly.

I seriously don’t know if any of this actually works but I guess it’s just my way of life. Keep calm…

Typical dumb phrases

I may have heard some form of this blog on Seinfeld.  I can’t be sure.

People should be more careful when they speak to avoid the typical dumb phrases.

To be honest with you…. – so what you’re saying otherwise is dishonest

Nothing personal… – usually means this is personal but I’m trying to be diplomatic so I don’t get sued

To be fair…. – meaning I’m usually an unfair person but this one time I’ve decided to be fair

Just saying…. – meaning this is what I want to say, I just don’t want people to know it’s coming from me

I’m sure we all can think of a few more phrases to be added to this list. I just can’t think of anything more right now.

My love for poetry

I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this. I have loved poetry every since my 3rd grade teacher made me learn and recite “The Owl and the Pussycat” by Edward Lear. It was such a nonsensical poem and perfect for a 3rd grader. I loved it. I loved the way the words would flow and rhyme. Ever since that day, I have never stopped reading poetry or collecting them. I even attempted to write some back in the day, with a few good ones coming out.

For me, reading poetry takes me to a different time and place. It seems to be the most effective to feel what may be in person’s heart and you can feel the poet’s emotions flowing through the words. It’s a very powerful means of expression. As a extension to my poetry collection, I also like to collect lyrics.

It seems futile now that I have so many poetry books since I can search for almost any poem on the internet. But I still love flipping through my books or my notebooks, and realising that I’ve read some poems more often than others. It takes me back again to a different time and place.

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways – by Elizabeth Barett Browning

This is a well known poem. The first line has probably been quoted thousands of times. Yet most people have never read the whole poem. It’s short and sappy. It’s a cliché to love this poem, but I do. There were not many female poets in her times and this lady really made a difference. The words are simple, yet powerful. Till this day, I think this poem very aptly describes a person in love.

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways 
by Elizabeth Barett Browning

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

Why can’t people act their age?

I watch a lot of TV shows and the one thing that I’ve noticed is that the actors never seem to be acting their age literally. Take for instance, the show F.R.I.E.N.D.S. (one of my all time favourite by the way), the cast was 2 to 5 years older than the age they actually portrayed. The popular show Vampire Diaries portrays teenagers at the age of 17 or 18, who are actually 25 to 35 in real life. The main character from Covert Affairs was said to be 28 when she started out, when in reality she was 34.

May be Hollywood actors always seem to think that they look younger than they really are. Or may be, younger actors can’t portray the roles all that well. Which makes me wonder if people of those ages should be doing the things that they are doing on TV, like on Vampire Diaries.

One of the few shows where the actors actually portrayed their age is Sex and the City, where the main cast all played their age. I’m not sure about all the other characters on the show though.