The Perfect Life on Facebook

Ever wondered how perfect everybody’s life seems on Facebook? Open up your FB and you are flooded by announcements of picture perfect weddings, the ultimate honeymoon experience, people reaching mountain tops…

Is life really that perfect? It would seem that there is a never ending competition of whose life could be more exciting. There seems to be a constant pressure among peers to out-do one another with picture of flashy new cars or posts about the holiday that everybody dreams about. While life’s essence might be survival of the fittest, it certainly is not “show off with your moments”!

In this day and age, people seem to be constantly trying to prove that they live the more exciting life. It’s gotten to a point where I’ve often heard people say…. oh let’s take a picture, I must upload this on FB. It would then seem that sharing a picture on FB is probably more important that savouring the moment or cherishing the memory.

The down side to all of this is that life is not as perfect as it seems on Facebook. And the truth is people do get hurt, lose their jobs and suffer great losses. More often then not, people should consider this when bragging about their great victories in life. Being humble is a virtue. Being humble on Facebook could be an art…

Is closure overrated?

When I think of the word closure in the context of relationships, it takes be back to that episode in Friends where Rachel gets drunk on her blind date and calls Ross leaving a message. Somehow the whole thing seemed a lot funnier and definitely easier.


I’ve been in and out a number of relationships. Moving on never seemed to be such a difficult task. I did  have one instance where I remember it being difficult to move on. I think the reason was that I always wanted some perfect ending to that relationship. Somehow that didn’t happen. I did eventually move on. In fact, now we are good friends. I can’t remember how we crossed the line to being back to friends. But somehow, it happened.


The question then is, do you really need to have closure to move on? More importantly what gives you that closure? It could be a phone call (as in the case of the Friend’s episode) or it could be a final goodbye. It could also be a nasty fight, unpleasant things said and never wanting to see each other again. While that’s not ideal, it does bring closure.


What happens when there’s something in between? When you don’t define breaking it off and somehow things just start to fade. You stop speaking as much, you don’t see each other as much and somehow there’s nothing left in the relationship. Not getting closure can leave something lingering. It just seems there’s no finality to what happened. The truth is every story should have a beginning, a middle and an end. The ending has to be final. It can’t just be that you let things fade. It’s uncomfortable not to get closure. And what’s more uncomfortable is having to act like nothing ever happened.


Some days are just blah….

Ever had one of those days when you are just blah? Something just doesn’t seem right. The mind is just blank and you’re just not sure what mood you are in. It’s not a depressed feeling. More like being in a mellow state of mind, where nothing seems interesting and the world may just pass you. You go about your business in the most uninterested way. It’s not a bad day because it’s not like things bug you. But, it’s not like things don’t bug you. You’re not really sure what to make of this state of mind and sometimes you don’t even know what to do with yourself. You may even question whether what you are doing is worth anything or amounts to anything in this world. You know this day will pass and tomorrow is another day. But for today you are just…. blah!

My new A5 Filofax Original

From the moment I saw the Original online, I knew I would give in a buy one eventually. Just the thought of cover being made from one piece of leather was so appealing (weird, I know!). Then I started to see all the reviews on various blog posts and I just couldn’t help myself.

I did, however, make a bold move by getting an A5. I haven’t used an A5 in over 2 years. The personal has been working so well for me and I love my Wine Osterley. I have all the personal Filofaxes that I really like – I have a Malden in  Black, Osterley in Wine and a Compact Chameleon in Raspberry. So, I decided to be bold and get the A5.

It’s simply gorgeous….. and I’ve been trying to figure out a way to integrate it into my life. I so want to use this Filofax now. But I simply cannot give up the portability of the Personal. It came with a 2014 diary insert as well, so I have plenty of time to figure out changing up my planner.

It comes with a plastic cover to protect the leather (something new from Filofax). It took me two days to part with the plastic. 🙂

Filofax The Original A5 - Front Cover
Filofax The Original A5 – Front Cover
Filofax The Original - A5 - Back Cover
Filofax The Original – A5 – Back Cover

And here are some more pictures….of the inside, the button (love the retro look).

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My take on fake designer bags…

Wrong, wrong, wrong!

I don’t think it’s right to carry around fake designer bags. Now, this may sound totally pompous and arrogant, but I firmly believe in this policy. I do understand that not everyone can afford a designer bag, but that’s no excuse. There was a time that I couldn’t afford a designer bag. Do you know what I did? I carried non-branded bags. But never a fake.

It’s not so much the idea of stealing designs or that designers go through a lot of trouble coming up with their ideas. Neither is it the issue, that most people can’t tell the difference. I just don’t believe in anything fake. What does that really say about a person?

Worse still, are the companies that steal designs and parade them as their own. Cheaper labels like Guess and Forever 21 ripping off designs should just be banned. Walk into a Guess store and one can buy a Jimmy Choo lookalike. How wrong is that? I suppose designers take the high road of not suing such companies.

I think people really should think twice before buying knock-offs!!